All of us have difficulty communicating because we do not know each others' love language, as outlined in Dr. Gary Chapman's best seller, The Five Love Languages. This seasoned marriage counselor has come to the conclusion that people express and give love in five primary ways, which he terms five separate languages. People generally speak one of these languages, but are attracted to people who speak a different love language, resulting in a communication gap. The five languages constitute: (1) words of affirmation, (2) quality time, (3) receiving gifts, (4) acts of service, and (5) physical touch. If someone is speaking in a love language we do not understand, the effort is often unseen. We need to adjust to what makes sense in our mate's love language. These five love languages have spiritual parallels in our relationship to God our in our relationship with out brethren. Our great God is always doing and giving, going beyond words into concrete deeds of service. Agape love is not about getting what we want, but upon giving and doing for others, doing what is best for the God family. We need to emulate our Savior in giving and sacrificing rather than Satan, whose focus is on getting. We have different ways in which we like to feel and express love and we often bypass each others' best intentions because every four out of five people we know speak a different love language. We must seek to know and understand each others' needs, stirring up the love in one another. Love is a choice, not an emotion, backed by action. When we love, it does not matter what we get, only what we can give selflessly. We need each other to perfect and express God's love.