Grief is a normal human response to loss, yet Jesus Christ and Paul demonstrated that a hopeful expectation of the resurrection produces a more mature attitude, suppressing sorrow without callousness because the glory to come outweighs present suffering. Scripture presents grief as purposeful, for the house of mourning improves the heart, those who mourn are blessed and comforted, and godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, while worldly sorrow ends in death. Such mourning extends to sorrow over sin and society's evils, humbling the heart so God can instill wisdom. When tragedy strikes, God allows time to mourn, but the proper focus is not on why suffering occurred, but on repentance, faith, and giving God the glory.

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Acquainted with Grief

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Christ's bearing of our sicknesses and infirmities may have taken place throughout His life. He may have been acquainted with ill health for our benefit.

Death Is Not the End (Part Three)

CGG Weekly by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Jesus Christ faced His own death and that of Lazarus with awareness of its terrors yet looked beyond it to the power of God and the resurrection. The apostle Paul, though a normal righteous man acquainted with many perils, likewise viewed death not as an end but as an interlude leading to eternal life with Christ. He expressed willingness to depart and be with Christ, describing death as gain while acknowledging that it remains sobering and grievous because a life has ended and companionship will be missed. Paul kept his priorities clear by preferring eternal life to physical life and by choosing to remain alive longer for the sake of the brethren. In the case of Eutychus, Paul responded to the young man's death with calm composure rather than hysteria or wailing, stretching himself upon the body and reassuring those present that the youth would live. This measured reaction allowed the brethren to resume fellowship without prolonged distress. Although grief is normal for humans who feel deep emotion at the loss of loved ones, the examples of Jesus Christ and Paul demonstrate that a hopeful expectation of the life to come constitutes a more spiritually mature attitude. Their faith enabled them to suppress grief to a large degree, not from callousness but because the promise of resurrection and the glory to be revealed far outweighed present suffering.

House of Mourning

Sermon by Bill Onisick

Personal experiences of grief begin with the sudden loss of a grandfather during an afternoon nap, followed by the drowning of a college fraternity brother and the death of a father during routine surgery. These events produced lasting pain that initially tore a family apart yet eventually prompted self-examination, a sense of urgency, and openness to a divine calling. Such losses illustrate that grief cannot be avoided and that human nature prefers comfort and pleasure, yet avoiding sorrow often sustains sin because the heart has not truly mourned wrongdoing. Scripture presents grief as purposeful. Ecclesiastes teaches that the day of death surpasses the day of birth and that the house of mourning benefits the living more than the house of feasting, because sorrow improves the heart while constant mirth leaves it unchanged. The Beatitude states that those who mourn are blessed and will be comforted, with the Greek term indicating ongoing lament that leads to divine joy rather than fleeting happiness. Godly sorrow, as described in Second Corinthians, produces repentance that results in salvation and lasting change, whereas worldly sorrow ends only in death. This mourning extends beyond personal loss to sorrow over the abominations in society and over individual sin that contributed to Christ's death. Ezekiel records that those who sigh and cry over Jerusalem's evils receive God's protective mark, while James urges believers to lament, mourn, and weep so that laughter turns to godly grief. Such sorrow humbles the heart, allowing God to circumcise its selfish inclinations and instill wisdom. Psalm 90 therefore asks God to teach the numbering of days, and Ephesians calls for redeeming the time because the days are evil. Ultimately, grief serves as the means by which God shapes character, fosters repentance, and draws the heart nearer to Himself. Those who permit sorrow to produce diligence, zeal, and resolve receive comfort, restoration, and the strength to live according to His will rather than fleeting pleasures.

Not To Reason Why

Commentary by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

When tragedy strikes, God allows time to mourn, and Jesus wept with those who grieved. Such sorrow is natural, necessary, and good, yet questions soon follow as people seek explanations for their suffering. Curiosity leads to inquiries about personal responsibility, possible guilt, and why God permitted the event. These questions arise not only in individual losses such as illness, fire, or violence but also in wider circumstances like elections, economic hardship, and the prosperity of the wicked. The underlying desire is to find meaning, to see suffering as purposeful rather than random or self-inflicted. Ministers hear these questions often and attempt to give answers consistent with what is known of God and His plan, yet no conclusive reasons can be supplied. Scientific or medical details may sometimes be available, but the deeper issue of why God allowed the tragedy remains beyond reach. Jesus addressed a comparable situation when the tower of Siloam fell, rejecting any notion that the victims were worse sinners than others and instead directing attention to repentance. His response shows that the proper focus is not on discovering the cause but on how to respond. Dwelling on the question of why wastes energy and deepens despair. As the soldiers in the charge described by Tennyson were not to reason why but to do and die, the task after tragedy is to move forward in faith. Such events serve as a reminder that life is brief and that the day of salvation is at hand. God, who acts only in love, brings these circumstances to pass so that attention may be directed toward eternal life. Like Job, who lost everything yet declared that the Lord gives and the Lord takes away, the faithful response is to give God the glory without demanding an explanation.

A Time to Tear

Sermon by Charles Whitaker (1944-2021)

The practice of rending clothes symbolizes sorrow, agony, despair, and hopelessness, a realization that God alone can restore the profound loss.

The Miracles of Jesus Christ: The Resurrection of Lazarus (Part One)

Bible Study by Martin G. Collins

Among Christ's greatest miracles is the resurrection of Lazarus. John 11 details Jesus' approach to and way of expressing the concept of death, giving hope.

Psalm Genres (Part Four): Laments

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Life is filled with grief and sorrow because human existence on a planet shared with billions involves repeated troubles, conflicts, and trials that multiply through interactions with others. Biblical testimony confirms this pattern, portraying the Savior as a man of sorrows acquainted with grief, pronouncing blessing on those who mourn, and declaring that tribulation, endurance through many hardships, and persecution await those who seek to live godly lives. Solomon concludes in Ecclesiastes that sorrow surpasses laughter because a sad countenance improves the heart, making the house of mourning more instructive than the house of feasting, since death confronts all and prompts deeper reflection on life, self, and purpose. The Psalms embody this reality through roughly fifty laments, one-third of the collection, which function as appeals to God for rescue amid illness, false accusation, persecution, warfare, or multiple distresses. These psalms follow a recurring pattern that begins with an invocation to God, voices the specific complaint, offers a petition for deliverance, expresses confidence in His intervention, and concludes with praise or a vow of trust, thereby moving the sufferer from woe and hopelessness to faith and renewed perspective. This structure helps process both emotional turmoil and intellectual questions, fostering wisdom and endurance. Individual laments cluster in the earlier books while praise psalms increase later, mirroring how trials often predominate early in conversion but should diminish as maturity grows and praise expands. Communal laments such as Psalm 44 model reasoning through national defeat by recalling God's past deliverances, acknowledging present perplexity, affirming continued faithfulness, and resolving to trust His future mercy even when the outcome remains unseen. Such reflection encourages objective assessment of circumstances, personal repentance, and steadfast endurance, leading ultimately to greater joy, praise of God, and the hope of a renewed creation where every tear is wiped away.

The Beatitudes, Part Three: Mourning

'Personal' from John W. Ritenbaugh

Blessedness and mourning seem contradictory, but obviously Jesus saw spiritual benefits to sorrow. True, godly mourning gets high marks from God.

Lamentations (Part Three)

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Personified Jerusalem, whom God depicts as a grieving widow, blames others for her troubles while overlooking her own sins as the real cause of her sorrow.

Lamentations (Part Five)

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

The expressions of sorrow in the Psalms far outnumber expressions of praise, indicating that the Hebrew culture has almost made the lamentation an art form.

Of Death

Sermon by James Beaubelle

While some view death as a transition or displacement of cosmic energy, scripture affirms that death is real, appointed to all, and occurs under God's authority.

Lamentations (Part Six)

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

In Lamentations 3, the narrator finally convinces Lady Jerusalem that her own sins have caused her necessary punishment and affliction by God.

Those Who Mourn

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Worldly sorrow leads to death while godly sorrow leads to repentance and life. After godly repentance, sorrow is swallowed up in profound joy.

On The Value of Joy

Commentary by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

Because we live in a troubling world, our reserves of joy are probably somewhat low, perhaps making us feel that we are deficient in God's Holy Spirit.

Lamentations (Part Four)

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

In Lamentations 2, Lady Jerusalem sidesteps godly repentance, opting instead for self-centered recrimination against Almighty God.

Strategies for Escaping Babylon (Part Three)

Sermon by David F. Maas

Creating a sense of humor will make it easier to escape the satanic lies of Babylon, or at least make it more endurable.

Back to Life (Part Four)

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

God's love does not shield us from sickness, pain, sorrow, or death. There are several scriptural contexts in which Jesus shed tears and expressed grief.

Made His Wonderful Works to Be Remembered (Part Two)

Sermon by Mark Schindler

Those called by God now have a unique privilege and responsibility to live in God's truth, distinguishing them from those who have hope but lack understanding.

Abraham (Part Twelve)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

Based on his long friendship with God, Abraham could systematically calculate the reliability of God's promises even in the lack of visual evidence.

Tearing Your Clothes

Sermonette by James C. Stoertz

Tearing one's clothing has lost its meaning, such as when it is used as a form of vanity like in torn clothing fashions or as a form of faux humility.

It's Enough! Now, Lord, Take My Life!

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

Great luminaries of faith all wrestled with devastating despair. We must face depression with honesty, compassion, and unwavering trust in God.

Job and Self-Evaluation (Part Two): Perspective

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Job's three 'friends,' exemplars of all men, made critical assumptions and judgments about Job on the basis of biased religious and cultural tradition.

Fast-Forwarding the Tape

'Ready Answer' by David F. Maas

Some of us fast-forward to catch a glimpse of the ending of a story. This curiosity is similar to God's showing us how life's experiences can turn out.