Among those who observe and research human behavior, there is an established theory that our experience with comfort during childhood sets the stage for how we love and relate to others into adulthood. The question of whether one can recall being comforted as a child after emotional distress reveals much about our relationships. The environment of comfort, or its absence, creates an imprint or style of love and connection that persists. Researchers have identified five basic styles of response to environments lacking comfort. First, in an environment with little affection and high value on independence, we may become closed off, preferring space over risky connections, and struggle to bond deeply with others. Second, growing up with an overly protective or critical parent filled with anxiety, we may focus on pleasing others, avoiding conflict, and suppressing truth to maintain peace, often leading to resentment. Third, in an unpredictable environment with inconsistent affection, we may fear abandonment, idealize relationships, and struggle with anger and exclusivity, often misinterpreting actions as rejection. The last two styles emerge from chaotic or abusive environments. One response is becoming aggressive and controlling to avoid vulnerability, lacking empathy and reacting with anger to disorder. The other is becoming passive, tolerating abuse, and avoiding personal voice or opinions, often feeling like a victim. These styles can hinder our ability to form secure, stable relationships. Examining our past helps us understand why we relate to others as we do. Even with broken backgrounds, comfort on a human level remains significant, influencing how we connect within our communities.