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Fathers Provoking Children

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. This instruction serves to balance the power dynamics within the family, recognizing that while children are to obey their parents, there are limits to parental authority to prevent abuse. Parents must be cautious not to overuse their power in ways that could enslave or overburden their children, as constant demands or extreme commands can lead to negative reactions. Provoking children to wrath is not limited to inciting anger alone. While anger may be the most common response to domineering or neglectful parenting, children may also react by becoming depressed, holding emotions inside, hurting themselves, acting out in rebellion, plotting revenge, or responding sarcastically. The spectrum of reactions can range from wrath to deep discouragement, where a child may feel disheartened, lack confidence, or lose enthusiasm for life due to being beaten down by overbearing or neglectful treatment. Parents hold a significant responsibility, as their attitudes and actions can shape or break a child's character. A parent's moods, attitudes, and behaviors are observed and often modeled by children, influencing their personalities and future interactions. This weighty role places parents in a position akin to God in the family structure, especially in a child's early years when they look up to parents with complete trust and dependence. The example of King David illustrates the consequences of neglectful parenting. His lack of discipline, failure to rebuke or question his children's actions, and apparent uninvolvement led to severe negative outcomes in his children's lives. Absalom became a vain, power-hungry narcissist who rebelled against his father. Amnon, driven by unbridled lust, became a sexual predator. Tamar, a victim of Amnon's actions, withdrew into desolation, lacking a supportive relationship with David. Adonijah mirrored his brothers' flaws, scheming for power and position. Solomon, despite his achievements, displayed self-indulgence and insatiable appetites, contributing to burdens on his people. David's benign neglect played a role in these tragic outcomes, highlighting the need for balanced, engaged parenting. Fathers can provoke their children through various means: by being absent physically, emotionally, or spiritually, thus neglecting the child's need for involvement and encouragement; by acting solely as disciplinarians, breeding anger rather than showing love and multidimensional care; by taking more than giving, engaging children only for personal gain rather than their benefit; by criticizing more than encouraging, deflating a child's spirit; by publicly humiliating them, fostering hurt and resentment; by being stingy, withholding time or gifts, making children feel worthless; and by failing to admit personal faults, appearing hypocritical and undermining trust. Parents must strive to find a balance, ensuring their authority is used wisely to nurture rather than provoke negative reactions in their children.

Where Are the Children?

Sermon by Ronny H. Graham

Malachi 4:5-6 predicts a horrible curse if the hearts of the fathers are not turned to the children and the hearts of the children turned to their fathers.

A Heritage and a Reward

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

American society is cursed because the family, its most important component, is dysfunctional. It is impossible to raise families without God.

The March Toward Globalism (Part Seven)

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

Neither permissiveness nor harshness are endorsed by God; sound-mindedness in child-rearing requires control and measured justice while avoiding extremes.

The Fifth Commandment (1997)

'Personal' from John W. Ritenbaugh

The fifth commandment begins the section of six commands regarding our relationships with other people. Children should learn proper respect in the family.

Studying the Bible

Sermon by John O. Reid

Bible study provides a personal means of attaining the mind of God, growing in the grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ.

The Fifth Commandment

'Personal' from John W. Ritenbaugh

The fifth commandment stands at the head of the second tablet of the Decalogue, which governs our human relationships. It is critical for family and society.

The Commandments (Part Ten)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

The fifth commandment provides a bridge, connecting our relationships with God and the relationships with our fellow human beings.

Godly Training and Admonition

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Godly training forewarns a child of danger or faults in human nature. The Scriptures do not contain many examples of exemplary child rearing.

A Matter of Honor

'Ready Answer' by Staff

The Bible has a great deal to say about honor and whom we should honor. Here are some difficult but necessary lesson in honor.

The Fifth Commandment

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh

The fifth commandment teaches our responsibility to give high regard, respect, and esteem to parents and other authority figures, leading to a prosperous life.

The Commandments (Part Eleven)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

Honor of parents is the basis for good government. The family provides the venue for someone to learn to make sacrifices and be part of a community.

Parental Leadership

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Although human fathers have authority, they are not to provoke their children to wrath. Our goal is to produce children whom God would be delighted to call.

Parenting (Part 3): Mothers

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

The mother provides a gentle, cherishing quality to child rearing compatible with the strength provided by her husband.

Childrearing (Part Five)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

We must not leave child rearing to chance, but ought to bend the tender twigs entrusted to us toward God's purpose, training our children in righteousness.

The Chemistry of Government

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh

Expectation of reward, fear of disadvantage, and charisma all constitute the chemistry of government and childrearing, but require the right proportion.

Prove Yourself A Man!

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

Masculine leadership is demonstrated by men who embrace God's commandments, love and protect their wives, and instill a love of God's truth in their children.

Growing Up

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Children who learn to obey their parents (and by extension, the laws of God and society) save themselves from untold grief later in life.

Fatherhood and Modern Temptations

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

Many fathers abdicate their leadership responsibilities, becoming addicted to workaholism, television, or even pornography. The culture teeters on destruction

Childrearing (Part Two)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

We cannot turn the teaching of our children over to others, but instead must train and educate them to become productive citizens in the Kingdom of God.

Spiritual Fine Tuning

Feast of Tabernacles Sermon by David F. Maas

As maturing Christians, we are called to lay aside the childlike tendency to over-correct, violently and impulsively moving from one ditch to the other.