We are royalty, part of the highest Family in all creation. We can take great comfort in knowing who it is we really are and that the Father greatly values us.
The opposite of selfishness is not self-hatred, but mature self-love, loving ourselves as a responsible, caring parent would (or should) love a growing child.
In the aftermath of the Columbine massacre at Littleton, Colorado, Richard Ritenbaugh observes that the parenting practices of our people leave a great deal to be desired. Because of our upside down emphasis on the youth culture and its characteristic selfishness or self-centeredness, the family is crumbling and deteriorating. …
We cannot have peace on a grand scale until we make peace with those closest to us. Without loving our brother, it is impossible to take on God's image.