In these perilous last days, society exhibits a lack of natural affection, rendered from the Greek astorgos or astorge, signifying a heartless absence of family love. This coldness emerges from unthankfulness, an unholy outlook, and abounding lawlessness, eroding bonds between parents and children. Historically, infants were discarded or drowned, while today youth commit violence and media mocks parental roles. As Jesus warns, love grows cold through a gradual process, like cooling hot soup, where sin begets more sin and self-interest overshadows communal bonds. This breakdown opposes God's purpose for marriage, which seeks godly offspring through His love. To resist, believers must endure in faith, immerse themselves in Scripture, serve one another, and rekindle genuine affection, honoring Him through actions toward the least of His brethren.

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Without Natural Affection

Sermonette by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

In these perilous times, as foretold, society exhibits a profound lack of affection, described as being without natural affection or family love. This absence of human connection manifests in the breakdown of familial bonds, where the natural love between family members is eroded. Historical accounts from the Roman Empire reveal a time when children were discarded if not acknowledged by their fathers, and even prominent figures justified drowning weak or deformed infants. In our current era, this lack of affection is evident in the alarming trends among youth, where teenagers commit violence over material possessions like trendy clothes or gadgets, and carry weapons to school, driven by a culture that glorifies rebellion and lawlessness. This coldness of heart, as prophesied, stems from abounding lawlessness, causing love to grow cold through a gradual, constant process, much like cooling a hot bowl of soup by blowing on it. As lawlessness multiplies, love diminishes, becoming ingrained in societal norms and personal priorities, affecting how we treat our families and each other. Yet, there is a call to resist this decline by enduring in faith, staying close to God, and immersing oneself in the Holy Scriptures, which equip us for every good work. By doing so, we can rekindle our love, showing natural affection to one another as brethren, and thus honor Him through our actions toward the least of His brethren.

Handwriting on the Wall: Without Natural Affection

Feast of Tabernacles Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

In these perilous times, as described in II Timothy 3:1-5, society is marked by a profound lack of affection, termed as "unloving" or "without natural affection" in various translations. This concept, rooted in the Greek word "astorgos," signifies a heartless absence of family love, a callousness that has been building in our culture for decades. The bonds of affection, particularly between parents and children, have been systematically eroded by societal changes and influences. Where once families spent nearly all their time together, fostering deep connections through shared work and education at home, now children and parents are often separated by school schedules, extracurricular activities, and the pervasive distraction of technology. Even when physically together, they remain emotionally apart, engrossed in individual digital worlds, neglecting meaningful interaction. This lack of natural affection is further exacerbated by media portrayals that pit youths against adults, promoting strife and diminishing the value of parental roles. Such depictions often mock traditional family structures, presenting parents as dispensable or foolish, which contributes to a broader societal acceptance of discord over unity. As lawlessness abounds, as Jesus warns in Matthew 24:12, love—whether familial or divine—grows cold through a gradual, persistent process, much like blowing on hot soup to cool it. This cooling of affection is not sudden but develops over time due to increasing sin, which begets more sin, stifling the warmth of love with each act of selfishness or iniquity. The consequence of this trend is a society where personal gain overshadows communal bonds, where the priority of "me first" undergirds attitudes of narcissism and indifference. Jesus cautions that even the agape love within His disciples can grow cold under the influence of a corrupt world, urging vigilance against such decline. To counter this, Paul in II Timothy 3:12-17 advises continuing in the practices learned and deepening understanding through God's revelation. By holding fast to truth and actively doing good, as exemplified by Jesus Christ in Acts 10, believers can resist the cultural drift toward heartlessness. This involves not only knowing the teachings but also embodying them through acts of service and spiritual giving—offering love, joy, and patience to others as fruits of the Spirit. In this concentrated time of learning and fellowship, there is a call to be countercultural, to push back against society's retreat from natural affection. Among the gathered, there is an opportunity to practice servant-leadership, to serve one another in ways that rebuild and strengthen bonds of love. By learning from righteous examples and actively serving, the community can stand as a beacon of God's way, resisting the coldness of the world and fostering the warmth of true affection.

Childrearing (Part One)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

In the prophecy of perilous conditions during the last days, the apostle Paul lists without natural affection as one of several attitudes that arise within families. This condition, rendered in the original language as astorge, refers to the absence of the instinctive attachment that normally exists between parents and children simply because of their physical relationship. The lack of affection does not appear in isolation but emerges as the natural progression from unthankfulness, which removes any sense of obligation toward those who have given life and care, and from an unholy outlook that severs all fellowship with God. Once these attitudes take hold, even the basic ties of family loyalty begin to dissolve. Children cease to value the family name or reputation, neglect assigned duties, and show no concern for maintaining order or stability within the home. The resulting estrangement produces constant conflict, irreconcilable differences, and ultimately the departure of children who can find no basis for reconciliation. This breakdown of affection is presented as both a symptom and a cause of the broader failure in child rearing that leaves young people spiritually and morally unprepared. It stands in direct opposition to the divine purpose for marriage, which seeks godly offspring through relationships marked by the love of God rather than natural sentiment alone. Without that love, the natural affection that should bind families together cannot be sustained, confirming that proper child rearing requires the active presence of God's Spirit to produce the maturity and loyalty He intends.

Biblical Loves

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Lacking affection appears in the material through the negative form of storge, rendered as astorge. This term denotes the absence of natural family affection or the warm, familiar bond that normally exists among parents, children, and siblings. Paul lists astorge among the traits of a debased mind in Romans 1:28-31, where people who reject God exhibit a range of anti-God behaviors that include being without natural affection. The same word recurs in II Timothy 3:1-3 as a marker of perilous last-day conditions, again placed alongside disobedience to parents and other signs of moral decline. The material presents this lack as more than simple coldness; it signals a fundamental rupture in the instinctive care and loyalty that should operate within a household. When storge is absent, individuals become callous and inhuman toward those closest to them by blood or long association. This deficiency is contrasted with the positive functions of storge, which supplies unspoken unity and faithfulness without romantic or sexual elements. Its disappearance therefore functions as an indicator that covenant relationships, whether natural or spiritual, are being abandoned. The discussion ties the absence of this affection directly to the larger treatment of love terms, showing that when even the most basic human attachment fails, the higher forms of love required in the church become still more difficult to maintain.

Never Allow Your Love to Wax Cold

Sermon by Clyde Finklea

Hosea 4:6 provides the foundation for understanding how God's people become spiritually destroyed through a lack of intimacy with Him, and this lack of affection connects directly to the broader theme of Israel's spiritual harlotry and covenant unfaithfulness. Chaim Bentorah's Hebrew word study reveals that the word for "knowledge" here is yada, rooted in the idea of intimacy, meaning God's people possessed His revealed and hidden knowledge yet were destroyed because they lacked genuine intimacy with Him. The word for "reject" is ma'as, which pictures a candle gradually melting down until its fire goes out—illustrating that Israel did not suddenly abandon God but slowly allowed their intimate relationship with Him to diminish. This gradual withdrawal of affection is compared to a married couple whose intimacy melts away until the relationship falls apart, directly paralleling Paul's warning in 1 Thessalonians 5:19 not to quench the Spirit. This lack of affection carries consequences: God states He would reject Israel from being priests and would forget their children, meaning their descendants would lose their identity as God's people entirely. Hosea 4:7 explains that increased prosperity led to increased sin, as the people ceased to care about keeping God's law once they became wealthy and powerful—their glory turned to shame. This physical example finds its spiritual counterpart in Revelation 2:4-5, where Christ tells Ephesus they have forsaken their first love—agape—through gradual neglect rather than sudden departure. The warning that their love was waxing cold applies not just historically but specifically to God's people at the end of the age. Christ warns that failure to repent results in the removal of the lampstand, symbolizing the loss of position as priests in His Kingdom, as described in Revelation 20:4-6 concerning the first resurrection. Matthew 24:10-12 identifies lawlessness as the direct cause of love growing cold, linking directly back to Hosea's theme of commandment-breaking as the root of spiritual defeat. This pattern manifested historically in the Worldwide Church of God, which grew large and wealthy like Laodicea but allowed love to wax cold, resulting in fragmentation into splinter groups as Christ stood knocking at the door seeking re-entry into a restored relationship. The ultimate remedy for this lacking affection is found in 2 Peter 1:2-9, which outlines a growth process—adding virtue, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, godliness, brotherly kindness, and love of God—that prevents believers from being barren or unfruitful in their knowledge of Christ. Those lacking these qualities become spiritually shortsighted and blind, forgetting they were cleansed from former sins. The call to make one's calling and election sure through diligence in these things ensures believers will never stumble and, critically, that their love will never wax cold, maintaining the intimate relationship necessary to remain part of God's priestly nation rather than facing the destruction that comes from a withdrawn, cold affection toward God.

The Heart's Self-Absorption

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh

The theme of lacking natural affection appears within Paul's list of nineteen characteristics describing the "perilous times" of the last days found in II Timothy 3:1-5, a passage that catalogs the many expressions of humanity's deceitful, incurably self-centered heart as described in Jeremiah 17:9. Paul warns Timothy that people will become, among other things, "without natural affection," a phrase functioning essentially as a synonym for indecency or shamelessness. This quality describes individuals who show no respect for the common norms and traditions that hold a culture together. It encompasses those who cannot speak with civility yet know profane language in multiple tongues, using it indiscriminately, as observed among workers of different ethnic backgrounds swearing fluently in five or six languages. The condition extends further into immodesty in public dress, exposing too much of the body, and spreads into pornography and even sexual abuse directed at one's own children—a sin noted as increasingly prevalent. It includes those who violate the most basic family boundaries, such as marrying close relatives, as well as those who flout public decency through acts like smoking in restricted areas or exhibitionism in public settings. At its core, this lack of natural affection dissolves even ordinary family love, rendering the family meaningless to those it afflicts. Such individuals will discard normal, decent pleasures altogether in pursuit of perversions, unable to find sufficient gratification within the bounds of acceptable conduct. This characteristic is presented as one manifestation among many of the same root problem: the self-love that Paul identifies as the foundational sin from which all others flow. Just as lovers of their own selves, the covetous, the proud, and the blasphemous all express varying degrees of the heart's fundamental narcissism, the person without natural affection reveals how far self-gratification can strip away even the most basic social and familial bonds that God intended to remain intact. Paul's point in listing these nineteen qualities, including this one, is not to describe outsiders exclusively but to expose what lies within the hearts of church members themselves, since believers come from the same corrupted human stock as everyone else. None of these traits are meant to be understood as constantly or uniformly expressed in every person; rather, they represent latent potentials within the deceitful heart that surface with varying intensity depending on the individual and the cultural climate of the times. The broader message ties this and the other listed traits to the approaching return of Christ, when society will increasingly resemble the days of Noah, and moral and spiritual standards will collapse on a wide scale. Yet the ultimate purpose in exposing such characteristics, including the absence of natural affection, is corrective rather than merely diagnostic. These qualities are meant to be recognized, challenged, and overcome through God's Spirit—described as a spirit of a sound and disciplined mind—so that believers may be brought to maturity, equipped for the responsibilities God intends to give them, and transformed in character to reflect God's own nature rather than the corrupted impulses of the unconverted heart.

Joseph: A Saga of Excellence (Part One)

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh

The theme of lacking affection runs through the account of Jacob's family and forms the emotional backdrop into which Joseph was born. Jacob's deep love for Rachel, established when he served fourteen years for her and never wavered throughout his life, stood in stark contrast to the way he treated Leah, who was "unloved" not because Jacob hated her but because she simply did not receive the same thoughtful consideration, care, and concern that Rachel enjoyed. This lack of affection produced visible fruit in the naming of Leah's sons—Reuben, Simeon, and Levi—each name reflecting her wistful hope that bearing children would finally win Jacob's attachment. Her repeated disappointment demonstrates how deeply this deprivation of affection wounded her, even though God compensated her by giving her sons through whom the scepter and the priesthood would come, and by ensuring she, not Rachel, was buried with Jacob. Rachel, meanwhile, suffered a different but related form of lack: though she held Jacob's heart, she lacked children, and her envy of Leah reveals how the absence of one blessing generates its own kind of anguish, even amid love. Her outburst, "Give me children, or else I die," shows the depth of this longing, and its ironic fulfillment in her death during Benjamin's birth illustrates the danger of rash words spoken in emotional extremity. This atmosphere of imbalance affected not only the two wives but their children and even the handmaids, Bilhah and Zilpah, who were used to bear children by proxy in the competitive struggle between the sisters. Their feelings as secondary figures, "prostituted" for the sake of another's fulfillment, could not help but shape the emotional climate in which all the sons, including Joseph's older brothers, were raised. The tension, bitterness, and rivalry generated by Jacob's favoritism created a family environment marked by jealousy and hard feelings long before Joseph's birth, culminating in violent episodes such as Simeon and Levi's massacre after Dinah's defilement—an act stemming from wounded family honor and unresolved resentment. Joseph, born late in Jacob's life to the wife he loved most, initially seemed poised to inherit the same pattern of imbalance, as Jacob transferred his affection to him after Rachel's death, provoking further envy among his brothers. Yet this narrative of lacking affection ultimately sets the stage for contrast: despite being born into a deeply flawed family marked by favoritism, deception, and emotional neglect, Joseph emerged as a man of extraordinary character, integrity, and spiritual purity. His story demonstrates that God's purpose was being worked out not through ideal family circumstances but through ordinary, flawed people—people whose lack of affection, favoritism, and jealousy became the very context in which God's plan for Israel's foundation was formed.

Childrearing (Part Four)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

Children do not initiate love but reflect it. If a child does not receive a convincing demonstration of this love, he will not become a conductor of love.