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Parenting (Part 5): Methods

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Disobeying parents is a serious matter that requires careful and consistent correction to guide children toward proper behavior. When children exhibit continued disobedience to the same rule, parents must escalate the punishment or change the method to one that effectively gains the child's attention and corrects the problem. Harsher punishment is reserved for actions that are truly evil, showing an attitude of rebellion, as these require stronger discipline compared to minor infractions like forgetfulness or laziness. Parents should ensure the punishment fits the infraction, avoiding excessive responses for small missteps or insufficient measures for serious disobedience. Being creative in discipline is essential, finding methods that resonate with the specific child and circumstance to ensure they take parental authority seriously. Immediate punishment after an infraction is crucial, as delayed consequences may fail to connect the behavior with the correction in the child's mind. Consistency is vital; parents must not allow a behavior to go unpunished one day if it was corrected previously, maintaining clear rules and limits. Both parents should be united in enforcing discipline, ensuring they are on the same page to prevent children from manipulating one against the other. If possible, punishment should target the offending member, such as a hand or lips, to directly address the misbehavior and reinforce the lesson, especially with younger children. Following physical punishment, verbal correction and instruction should be provided to teach the child what needs to be done differently. Finally, after punishment, parents should offer loving words, kindness, and a hug or other expressions of care, ensuring the child understands the discipline comes from love and a desire to prevent future mistakes, helping to restore their self-respect with praise for their good actions.

A Heritage and a Reward

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

Society often distorts the true essence of family relationships, promoting ideals that clash with God's intended design. In this light, the disobedience of children toward their parents stands as a stark reflection of broader societal decay. Many children today exhibit ingratitude and disrespect, even cursing their parents over trivial matters like unsatisfactory gifts, revealing a deep-seated rebellion against authority. God's purpose, however, is for children to be a blessing and for families to reflect His order. Children are called to obey their parents, as this is right and aligns with the natural law written on the human conscience. This obedience is not absolute; it must be rendered in a loving context and should not extend to actions that contradict God's will. Disobedience to parents, at its core, mirrors a spiritual rebellion against God Himself, undermining the foundation of a godly society. Parents, in turn, bear the responsibility to enforce obedience, standing as representatives of God in the family. To allow defiance is to teach children to defy God, with grave consequences for both the family and the wider community. Honor is also a duty children owe their parents, going beyond mere obedience to include respect and admiration from the heart. Even in challenging circumstances, such as with non-believing parents, children are to seek out positive traits to honor, maintaining respect for the role of parenthood as ordained by God. Parents must avoid exasperating their children through harsh or arbitrary discipline, instead nurturing them with balanced authority and encouragement. Fathers, in particular, are called to lead with compassion, listening to their children's ideas and concerns, and guiding them in the training and admonition of the Lord. This involves teaching godly principles and setting an example through a life rooted in faith. Both parents and children face challenges in these relationships, but with God's grace, they can overcome difficulties, building families that reflect His purpose and stand firm against worldly pressures.

To Whom Honor Is Due

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

A grave concern arises in our generation, especially among the youth, where disrespect and disobedience toward parents are rampant. This defiance, often visible in the attitudes and expressions of teenagers, is a serious transgression in the eyes of God. Disobeying parents is listed among the most despicable abominations, carrying the weight of severe judgment. God warns that such dishonor brings curses, potentially leading to destruction, as He places immense importance on honoring one's father and mother. There is, however, a specific circumstance where disobedience to parents is permitted. If parents demand actions that violate God's law, such as engaging in theft or other sinful behaviors, a child may refuse to obey. This exception is strictly limited to situations where God's commands are directly contradicted by parental demands. In all other cases, obedience to parents is required, particularly for those still under their roof, regardless of age, as a sign of honor and respect. Honor toward parents must be genuine, stemming from the heart, and not merely superficial. It is not enough to perform outward acts of respect if the inner attitude is one of rebellion. God calls for a deep, abiding reverence for parents, recognizing their authority as divinely appointed. Even in challenging situations with imperfect or perverse authority figures, honor must prevail unless God's law is at stake. This principle underscores the importance of humility and respect in maintaining the order and blessings God intends for families.

Kid Kid-Killers

'Prophecy Watch' by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

The rash of school shootings in America definitely has a cause, but it is not the ones that the experts predictably blame on the evening news.

The Fifth Commandment (1997)

'Personal' from John W. Ritenbaugh

The fifth commandment begins the section of six commands regarding our relationships with other people. Children should learn proper respect in the family.

The Fifth Commandment

Bible Study by Martin G. Collins

The fifth commandment bridges the two sections of love toward God and love toward man. We begin learning righteous conduct at home, with our parents.

The Commandments (Part Ten)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

The fifth commandment provides a bridge, connecting our relationships with God and the relationships with our fellow human beings.

The March Toward Globalism (Part Five)

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

We cannot instill sound-mindedness in our offspring unless we are personally filled with the fruits of God's Holy Spirit, modeling these for our children.

The Commandments (Part Eleven)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

Honor of parents is the basis for good government. The family provides the venue for someone to learn to make sacrifices and be part of a community.

Childrearing (Part One)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

The family problems predicted for the end times in II Timothy stem from faulty childrearing practices. We must help prepare our children for the Kingdom.

The Problem Of Leadership

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

The demise of society is caused by the lack of leadership within the family. The breakdown of society derives from the breakdown and of the family.

Childrearing (Part Three)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

Our children internalize our values; we teach largely by example. If we do not take seriously the responsibility for rearing our children, somebody else will.

On Self-Righteousness

CGG Weekly by John W. Ritenbaugh

Self-righteousness lies at the root of many other sins. Because we are self-centered, self-righteousness will follow as surely as water runs downhill.

Jesus and the Rebellious Son

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

The law for stoning a rebellious son was never recorded as having been carried out, but ironically the nation put to death the maximally obedient Son.

Whatsoever Your Heart Desires

Sermonette by Mark Schindler

We must not construe the term, "whatever our heart desires," as a pass to sin, but we should use every occasion to grow in thinking and acting like God.

For the Love of the Truth

Sermonette by Ryan McClure

Christ has never been in man's holidays, which are built on lies, and which teach children they cannot trust the veracity of their own parents.

Facing Times of Stress: Lovers of Self

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

We face the same kind of pressures and stress that Timothy faced, with perilous times ahead of us, threatening the existence of the nation and the church.