Grievous words wield immense power, cutting like swords and stinging like arrows, inflicting deep emotional wounds that often outlast physical pain. Such destructive language, including demeaning comments, sarcasm, gossip, and talebearing, reflects pride and arrogance, tearing down relationships and sowing discord, an act abhorrent to God as seen in Proverbs 6:17-19. These words, once spoken, cannot be undone, much like arrows shot forth. In contrast, God calls His people to reject harsh, evil speech and instead use words that edify, heal, and build up, reflecting His love. Harsh or foolish words, even if unintentional, can cause lasting harm, while gracious speech uplifts and strengthens others toward His Kingdom.

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Use Words Carefully

CGG Weekly by Gary Montgomery

Human nature, influenced by the world and satan, often leads to destructive interactions through demeaning and sarcastic comments. These cruel words can inflict deep emotional wounds, lasting far longer than physical injuries. Such grievous words, often disguised as humor, reflect an attitude of pride and arrogance, giving perpetrators a false sense of superiority as they belittle others. Words carry immense power, capable of cutting like swords and stinging like sharp arrows, ambushing the innocent with their cruelty. Inappropriate speech can humiliate and injure deeply, tearing down relationships in families, workplaces, and even within the church. Yet, good words have the potential to calm, heal, and build up, lifting the weak into a positive frame of mind. God calls His people to reject the world's proud, aggressive ways and to refrain from evil speech, instead using words that edify and impart grace to the hearers. We must express love through our speech, supporting and strengthening relationships as we strive toward God's Kingdom, for even unintentionally cruel words can cause lasting harm.

Our Words Matter: Are They Harmful or Helpful?

Sermon by Ted E. Bowling

Words possess a profound power to wound or to heal, and their impact can linger far beyond physical injuries. Harsh, grievous words often carry judgmental and subjective tones, perpetuating negativity, resentment, and distrust. For some, the invisible scars from such words may never fade, leading to a lifetime of anxiety, stress, anger, fear, or depression. The pain caused by destructive language, especially when spoken by an adult to a child, can shatter self-esteem and instill lasting doubt. Scripture emphasizes the gravity of our speech, holding us accountable for every word we utter. God abhors destructive language, as seen in Proverbs 6:17-19, where a lying tongue, a false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brethren are listed among the abominations to Him. These acts stand in opposition to His character. The Hebrew word for sowing discord, shalach, implies shooting forth like an arrow, an action that cannot be undone, much like words spoken without discretion. Tale bearing and gossip, condemned in Leviticus 19:16 and various Proverbs, are akin to bearing false witness, revealing secrets, and causing deep pain. The Hebrew term for talebearer, rakil, underscores the destructive nature of gossip, which often seeks to elevate the speaker at the expense of another's reputation. Such words rarely edify; instead, they tear down and provoke conflict, spreading like an uncontrollable fire. In contrast, God calls us to use words that build up and reflect His love. Harsh speech, lying, and discord must be guarded against, as they diminish His character, which we, as His church, are to represent. Our goal should always be to speak with kindness, truth, and love, ensuring our words do not harm but instead uplift and encourage others.

Fruit of the Flesh - On Conflict

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As God's chosen saints, we must not let our keyboard or mouth defile us. Godly conversation includes stifling the urge to win the argument at all costs.

Ecclesiastes Resumed (Part Thirty-Seven): Ecclesiastes 10:12-19

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

The words of a wise man's mouth are gracious, producing kindness and esteem in others, often leading to approval and practical expressions of goodwill. In contrast, the lips of a fool will swallow him up, as his foolish words turn into a monstrous evil that consumes and destroys him. These words begin with mere foolishness but progress to raving madness, described in Hebrew as rah a holelut, signifying evil and irrational insanity akin to a drunkard or a lunatic. A fool multiplies words, speaking incessantly with senseless chatter, often ignoring reality and building on a crooked or imaginary foundation, refusing correction. This progression of folly leads from silliness to a complete loss of touch with reality, ultimately bringing destruction not only to the fool but potentially to those around him. Solomon warns that such foolish speech, starting with inanity, degenerates into dangerous nonsense, ensnaring the fool's soul and wearying him with his own incompetence.