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Where Are the Parents?

CGG Weekly by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Parents must act as the moral and ethical voice to guide the energies and aspirations of youth, yet many seem hesitant to correct their children. Failing to provide direction can doom young people to lifetimes of grief and ruin, underscoring the urgent need for active parental guidance.

The Importance of Parenting

CGG Weekly by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Parenting holds a significant place in shaping a child's life, though its influence may be less than commonly believed. Some argue that life outcomes are determined 45-50 percent by genetics, 45-50 percent by outside-the-home socialization influenced by parental decisions on housing and schooling, and only 0-10 percent by in-home socialization, which equates to parenting. Despite this minimal impact, even a small difference matters in a competitive society, prompting diligent efforts to maximize that influence for the benefit of children. The importance of parenting is underscored by the need to actively train a child toward a specific, desired result, as early training remains with them throughout life. This responsibility demands diligence, thoughtfulness, and foresight from parents. Additionally, parents are encouraged to understand their child's emotional limits and to guide them with wise instruction, ensuring a balanced approach to childrearing. The focus remains on the parent's role in affecting the child's life, prioritizing foundational principles over material or economic success.

Crucial Parenting Principles

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Parenting in these times is fraught with challenges as external pressures from childcare experts, social media, intrusive local governments, friends, and relations often undermine parental authority. Public disciplining of a child can quickly become the subject of viral criticism, leading to scrutiny or intervention by social workers with the power to remove children from their homes. The state increasingly asserts control over children, as seen in cases where parental decisions are overridden, reflecting a broader trend of diminishing parental rights. Draconian child endangerment laws in some areas penalize what was once considered good parenting, labeling it as neglect or abuse, such as leaving a child briefly unattended or allowing independent play. Many parents struggle to adapt to these pressures, often abandoning traditional disciplinary methods due to fear of being labeled abusive. Modern parenting frequently resorts to ineffective strategies like counting to ten, time-outs, reasoning with toddlers, bargaining, bribing, or striving to be best friends with their children. These approaches often result in a loss of parental authority, as children learn they can manipulate outcomes, leading to a lack of control for the parent. A study by the University of Virginia's Institute for Advanced Studies in Culture identified four prevalent parenting styles in the United States. The "faithful" parents, about 20%, prioritize religious morality in childrearing, emphasizing prayer and discussions about living rightly. "Engaged progressives," roughly 21%, focus on teaching responsibility and personal choice, often excluding religious influence and promoting a live-and-let-live philosophy. The "detached," comprising 19%, adopt a hands-off approach, allowing children to act freely without interference, often due to a lack of confidence in their own parenting abilities. Lastly, the "American dreamers," the largest group at 27%, are overly optimistic about future opportunities, investing heavily in education and future prospects while neglecting present-day guidance, often failing to set boundaries. Despite these varied styles, a clinical psychologist, Eric Herman, asserts that the classic authoritarian style, where parents lead with love and kindness, remains the most effective. He emphasizes that parenting is hard work requiring consistent effort, and children who know they are loved will respect parental guidance. God expects constant diligence in parenting, urging parents to teach their children in every situation—whether at home, in public, or at rest. This relentless effort ensures children learn by example, observing and absorbing right behavior from their parents. Parents must establish themselves as authority figures early on, recognizing that children are susceptible to selfish tendencies from a young age due to their inherent nature and the corrupt influences of the world. Immediate, gentle, yet firm training is essential to counter these influences and prevent the seeds of rebellion from taking root. Three crucial parenting principles emerge as vital for success. First, parents must establish proper authority, standing in the place of God for their children, teaching them respect and obedience to foster a nurturing environment for growth. Early establishment of this authority reduces the need for severe discipline later and minimizes potential rebellion. Second, consistency is paramount; parents must be unwavering in their principles and united in their approach, ensuring children trust their word and cannot exploit divisions between them. God's unchanging nature serves as the model for this consistency, providing a foundation of reliability for children. Third, parents must be actively involved in their children's lives, not as distant observers but as hands-on guides and cheerleaders, celebrating successes and supporting struggles. This involvement, modeled after God's intimate presence, balances guidance with freedom,

Parenting (Part 5): Methods

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Of the various approaches to discipline, spanking is really the only method endorsed by the Bible. Properly administered, spanking smarts but leaves no bruises.

Parenting (Part 1): Principles

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Because of our upside down emphasis on the youth culture and its characteristic selfishness or self-centeredness, the family is crumbling and deteriorating.

Parenting (Part 4): Discipline

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Realizing that parental authority must be used with godly love, the prompt discipline we mete out should be fair and appropriate.

Parenting (Part 3): Mothers

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

The mother provides a gentle, cherishing quality to child rearing compatible with the strength provided by her husband.

Parenting (Part 2): Fathers

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Patriarchy is family organization with the father having ultimate authority. The husband's role, grounded in love, must not be abusive or domineering.

Children in the Era of AI (Part One)

Commentary by Martin G. Collins

Artificial intelligence devices interact with children, filling the gap left by near-absentee parents. We must be aware of the potential abuse of AI.

Teaching Our Children

Commentary by Ryan McClure

If we do not train our children, someone else will—namely the leftist educational system currently teaching Satan's lies, destroying the family.

The Century of the Child

'Prophecy Watch' by Martin G. Collins

Self-appointed experts insist that rapid technological change requires a transfer of influence over children from 'ill-prepared' parents to 'Those Who Know Better.'

Over-Honoring Children

Commentary by Martin G. Collins

Many misguided parents place their children on pedestals, virtually worshipping them, catering to every whim, fearing to offend them, failing to rein them in.

Cultural Manipulation

CGG Weekly by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Every new teen fashion, music, movie, and television trend is marketed and sold. Our kids are being manipulated to absorb and reflect a deviant culture.

Fatherhood

Sermonette by Ryan McClure

When we were single, we had all the answers to the art of parenting, but actual practice humbles us as to how ill-equipped we are for this task.

Are We Losing Our Children?

CGG Weekly by David C. Grabbe

The demands of life leave most adults gasping for breath and struggling to shoulder the load. But what effect is this pace having on the next generation?

Teaching Children

Sermonette by John W. Ritenbaugh

Should we teach our children or should we allow the church to do that? Do youth programs have a positive impact? Do they keep youth them in the church?

A Heritage and a Reward

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

American society is cursed because the family, its most important component, is dysfunctional. It is impossible to raise families without God.

The March Toward Globalism (Part Six)

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

While God expects parents to cultivate sound-mindedness, balance, and self-control in our children, Satan has been shaping young minds his own way.

Teaching Respect for Property

CGG Weekly by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Nascent socialism is seen in the attitudes toward private property. Many have a nagging feeling that they do not control anything, even what they supposedly own.

Learning the Right Things (Part Two)

Commentary by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

If parents are not gatekeepers of their children's culture, other philosophies will capture their attention and warp their perception of reality.

Fathers Provoking Children

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Most families in God's church have a functional father, but even so, extremes of leniency and overbearing strictness do not make an ideal father.

Surviving the Next Hit

CGG Weekly by David C. Grabbe

How can there be such a high attrition rate among the younger generation? How could 84 percent so easily give up the doctrines that they ostensibly believed?

The March Toward Globalism (Part Five)

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

We cannot instill sound-mindedness in our offspring unless we are personally filled with the fruits of God's Holy Spirit, modeling these for our children.

Teaching By Example

Sermonette by Ted E. Bowling

Good skills and habits learned as children will ensure success in later life. Our characteristics (good or bad) we find reflected in our children.

Shane and Integrity

Sermonette by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

If the past is good, the present can't hurt you, and if the past is bad, it will haunt you. In Wordsworth's words, 'The child is the father of the man.'

The March Toward Globalism (Part Seven)

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

Neither permissiveness nor harshness are endorsed by God; sound-mindedness in child-rearing requires control and measured justice while avoiding extremes.

The Fifth Commandment

'Personal' from John W. Ritenbaugh

The fifth commandment stands at the head of the second tablet of the Decalogue, which governs our human relationships. It is critical for family and society.

Perfect, Gentle Courtesy (Part 3)

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

Parents are obligated to teach God's laws to their children. According to Emily Post, good manners are to the family what good morals are to society.

Overcoming (Part 7): Selfishness

Bible Study by Martin G. Collins

Perhaps the main impediment to overcoming is our innate selfishness. Our goal is to bear the character of our God, whose primary characteristic outgoing concern.

The Fifth Commandment (1997)

'Personal' from John W. Ritenbaugh

The fifth commandment begins the section of six commands regarding our relationships with other people. Children should learn proper respect in the family.

Childrearing (Part Six)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

If we, as Christian parents, could shape and mold the minds of our children early, we could inoculate them against making the same mistakes that we did.

For the Children

Sermon by David C. Grabbe

For too many youths, God's way of life is not real because their parents are not fully convicted, but merely express a lukewarm preference for God's truth.

Toys as Tools

Article by John O. Reid

We often take our children's toys for granted, but they are tools that can teach either right or wrong. Here are guidelines for choosing appropriate toys.

Godly Training and Admonition

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Godly training forewarns a child of danger or faults in human nature. The Scriptures do not contain many examples of exemplary child rearing.

The March Toward Globalism (Part Four)

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

Self-will must be extirpated from our children; God's will must take its place. Childrearing must begin at the start of a child's formative life.

Childrearing (Part One)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

The family problems predicted for the end times in II Timothy stem from faulty childrearing practices. We must help prepare our children for the Kingdom.

The Promise in the Fifth Commandment (Part One)

'Ready Answer' by David F. Maas

What is the connection between keeping the fifth commandment—honoring parents—and enjoying a long, fulfilling, productive life on earth?

The Commandments (Part Eleven)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

Honor of parents is the basis for good government. The family provides the venue for someone to learn to make sacrifices and be part of a community.

Psalms: Book Three (Part Five)

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

If we would keep God's Feasts properly, we would be in sync with God's noble purpose for us, defending us from falling into apostasy and idolatry.

Teach Them Young

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

The most dramatic growth in the brain occurs between age 3 and age 12, at which time 1000 trillion synaptic connections turn the child into a knowledge sponge.

Kid Kid-Killers

'Prophecy Watch' by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

The rash of school shootings in America definitely has a cause, but it is not the ones that the experts predictably blame on the evening news.

Childrearing (Part Five)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

We must not leave child rearing to chance, but ought to bend the tender twigs entrusted to us toward God's purpose, training our children in righteousness.

Leadership and Covenants (Part One)

'Personal' from John W. Ritenbaugh

The contains a detailed record of both good and bad leaders, and it provides a repetitive principle that 'as go the leadership, so goes the nation.'

The Handwriting Is on the Wall (2005)

Feast of Tabernacles Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh

The family is under savage attack, with more and more children born out of wedlock. With the destruction of the family, we are witnessing the death of the U.S.

Sanctification and the Teens

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh

Young people in the church must realize that they are not invincible. Not only is God's law no respecter of persons, but also sanctification can be lost.

Legacy

Article by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

God tells us that a good man leaves an inheritance for his children's children. What kind of legacy will we leave our descendants?

Studying the Bible

Sermon by John O. Reid

Bible study provides a personal means of attaining the mind of God, growing in the grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ.

Why Be Industrious?

Sermonette by John W. Ritenbaugh

Training a child to be industrious helps him to be successful, which in turn promotes a stable family, community, nation and will transfer into God's Kingdom.

Strengthening the Family

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

God ordained marriage and the family for the physical and spiritual growth and nurturing of children. God's goal is a Family composed of mature spirit beings.

Growing Up

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Children who learn to obey their parents (and by extension, the laws of God and society) save themselves from untold grief later in life.

The Commandments (Part Twelve)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

Parents need to teach their children to consider the long-range consequences of current behaviors, chastening and disciplining them while there is hope.

Turning the Hearts of the Fathers to the Children

Sermonette by James C. Stoertz

What's Wrong With the Kids?

Sermonette by Mike Ford

A major factor of the snowflake syndrome is the self-esteem movement, which has brainwashed young people into thinking they were unique and special.

The Problem Of Leadership

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

The demise of society is caused by the lack of leadership within the family. The breakdown of society derives from the breakdown and of the family.

Even From My Youth

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Solomon teaches that childhood and youth are vanity, and that having fun while forgetting God may create flawed character and permanent sorrow.

The Chemistry of Government

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh

Expectation of reward, fear of disadvantage, and charisma all constitute the chemistry of government and childrearing, but require the right proportion.

Childrearing (Part Two)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

We cannot turn the teaching of our children over to others, but instead must train and educate them to become productive citizens in the Kingdom of God.

Don't Cherry Pick God's Law

Feast of Tabernacles Sermon by Kim Myers

While many people like some of God's laws, they like to pick and choose, preferring a blend of their own preferences with some of God's laws added in.

A Matter of Honor

'Ready Answer' by Staff

The Bible has a great deal to say about honor and whom we should honor. Here are some difficult but necessary lesson in honor.

Ecclesiastes Resumed (Part Thirty-Nine): Ecclesiastes 11:9-10

Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

The fleeting time of youth is a time of strength, exploration, and boundless opportunities, offering the freedom to try new things as well as make mistakes.

Gender Madness

Commentary by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Some leftists have created 112 genders. This bizarre gender madness is a symptom of what was formerly known as craziness — simply being out of one's mind.

Christian Marriage (Part One)

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

Cohabitation has led to increased divorce, marital violence, and lack of fidelity after marriage. Mass media has shamelessly used sex to promote materialism.

Childrearing (Part Four)

Sermon/Bible Study by John W. Ritenbaugh

Children do not initiate love but reflect it. If a child does not receive a convincing demonstration of this love, he will not become a conductor of love.

God's Will in the End Time

Feast of Tabernacles Sermon by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

God does not like to inflict punishment on people, but because of sin, He is obligated to correct. But as quickly as God punishes, God restores and heals.

True or False Guilt?

Sermonette by Ted E. Bowling

We must be able to separate genuine guilt, which is the spiritual equivalent of pain, from false guilt when we call into question God's forgiveness.

The March Toward Globalism (Part Two)

Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh (1932-2023)

As parents, we can protect our children from death and destruction if we discourage the self-absorptive pulls through correction and discipline.

Sanctification, Teens, and Self-Control

Feast of Tabernacles Sermon by John W. Ritenbaugh

Young people are responsible for the spiritual knowledge that they have learned from their parents, as well as the custodianship of spiritual blessings.

Leaving Christianity Behind

'WorldWatch' by Richard T. Ritenbaugh

Millennials are changing the face of the nation, transforming society on both public and private matters and rejecting Christianity for humanist values.

Specks as Mirrors

'Ready Answer' by David F. Maas

Our ability to see the specks in others' eyes may indicate spiritual deficiencies in ourselves, as we project our own sins onto others.

Fatherhood and Modern Temptations

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

Many fathers abdicate their leadership responsibilities, becoming addicted to workaholism, television, or even pornography. The culture teeters on destruction

A Light To The World

Commentary by Mark Schindler

Exposure to more than two hours per day on digital screens lowers scores on thinking and language tests. We must not abandon our children to smartphones.

Why Do You Feel Entitled?

Sermon by Kim Myers

The entitlement attitude has crept into God's church, with people seemingly feeling they should be served instead of eagerly serving others.

Prove Yourself A Man!

Sermon by Martin G. Collins

Masculine leadership is demonstrated by men who embrace God's commandments, love and protect their wives, and instill a love of God's truth in their children.